Do you feel like you don’t know what to do next—like your life is a frustrating puzzle that you can’t seem to solve?
You’re not alone. I think everyone has felt stuck at some point in their life.
We get too much into the weeds of where we’re headed and can’t see the way out, so we stop and wait. What if, instead, we try a change of perspective to give ourselves clear guidance?
Maybe you’ve been wanting to open a business, but you’re getting bogged down in the details and have stopped progress. Maybe you’re at a cross-roads in your life and can’t figure out what you want or need to do next.
If you’ve been stuck and are thinking “Why can’t I move forward?”, I’ll ask you the same question I ask my life-coaching clients.
If you knew what you needed to know to figure this out—what would you need to know?
I’ll admit, It sounds kind of silly and frustrating. You might think “Well, I wouldn’t need help if I knew that.”, but it’s a surprisingly powerful question.
When my clients answer, it’s usually something like “Well, I need to know that 2 + 2 = 4 and then I can move forward.” Then I’ll ask them the question they’ve been stuck on again and they’ll answer “I don’t know”, even though they just answered it.
Re-framing the question brings out a clear answer. It gets us out of the tall grass to where we can see our surroundings and where we need to move. Shifting perspective just a little bit can be the difference between banging your head against the wall and figuring out you can just walk around the wall.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, write down what you think your road-block is and start attacking it from different angles. Phrase the problem as a question and jumble the words around. You’ll be surprised how often a subtle shift in phrasing can unlock doors in your head that hold the answers you’ve been looking for.