Archive for March 2017

Watch out for squirrels!

I came home from work the other day and pulled my truck into the driveway to see several squirrels running through the trees. They were jumping from limb to limb and tree to tree—fast as lightning! I stood there for a few minutes watching them in awe before opening the rear door to my truck and emptying out the backseat.

Suddenly, a squirrel jumped into the backseat of my truck!

He immediately locked eyes with me then screamed in my face before running away. Yes, he screamed! He was just as shocked as I was.

It was as if he was too preoccupied playing with his squirrel friends to notice that anyone was around. When he found himself in my truck, he immediately realized he was somewhere he didn’t want to be, face-to-face with something that could be a potential threat to him.

It made me think about all the times that I’ve been too preoccupied with my own activities, only to take a moment to look up and realize that I was somewhere I didn’t want to be.

It was a good reminder for me to have purpose, vision, and direction, and to keep those things front and center. The ability to stay focused is an important part of daily life, no matter your career, responsibilities, or primary functions. It’s crucial to be able to focus on what you’re doing at all times.

Distractions can sidetrack and even discourage us from staying focused and going positively forward toward our short-term and long-term goals. This encounter with the squirrel was a great real-life reminder for me to stay the course and be intentional with every decision I make.

Date night questions

My wife and I are very intentional about having weekly date nights on Friday. Sometimes our dates are simple–just grilling on the patio. Other times we’ll treat ourselves to a nice dinner out.

After so many years of marriage, it can become difficult to continue improving and deepening your relationship. It’s easy to get comfortable and forget there is still so much more to learn about each other!

Mundane daily questions like, “How was your day?” are important, but they don’t tell the full story. And those questions don’t usually lead to deeper communication.

Throughout our relationship, my wife and I have made it a priority to ask fun, creative, and deep questions to get us talking.

Think about your spouse—you asked a lot of questions while you were dating to get to know each other better, right? There’s no reason that should stop now that you have made a commitment to one another!

Here are some of the questions my wife and I have asked each other recently on our Friday night dates:

  • What was the very first thing you thought about me?
  • What did you learn about marriage from your mom and dad?
  • What do you think is the best thing about our relationship?
  • What did you learn about marriage from my mom and dad?
  • If you could have dinner with one person from history (who is already deceased), who would it be and why?
  • What is the thing that I have done for you that has had the greatest impact on you?
  • Let’s say we can travel anywhere, and money is not an object. Where do we go? Why?
  • You’re marooned on an island, and you are allowed one song, one book, and one picture. What would you choose?

Use only two to three questions each date night, and really talk about your answers in detail. The point is to get to know your partner on a deep level all over again. This will increase your feelings of closeness, connection, and romance, which we all know is the whole point of date night!

Even if you’ve known each other a long time, even if you assume you know the answer, ask anyway. It’s good to hear what you already knew in your spouse’s words, and you may just be surprised.

I hope you and your spouse enjoy asking each other these questions as much as my wife and I did!