People hold onto things, both good and bad. There’s something about human-nature that makes us emotional hoarders.
Sometimes we cling to happiness – the things that make us feel good. Other times we hold onto anger and bitterness, even if those emotions make us feel terrible.
Whatever we’re holding onto, it can hurt us and hold us back. Even holding too tightly onto happiness can come back and bite us.
If we’re too attached to being happy, what happens when those feelings go away? In most cases we start chasing after happiness, trying to capture it again and losing sight of what we have and where we’re at in life.
Holding onto anger and sadness is also bad for our spirits. As much as those emotions can hurt us, they seem to be the ones we try hardest to bottle up and keep with us.
Keeping anger bottled up inside you has one of two outcomes: you either end up exploding or all those negative feelings eat you up from the inside out.
It’s hard to let go.
Before you can even begin you’ve got to know what you’re holding onto and sometimes that takes a lot of work. How many of us get excited about working on ourselves?
But here’s the thing, when you become more aware and awake to what you’re feeling you have the opportunity to acknowledge those feelings, loosen your grip on them, and let them slip on by.
If you’re happy your inner dialog might sound a bit like:
“I’m really happy right now and that’s great. I may not be happy tomorrow, but I am right now so I’m going to appreciate this moment and enjoy it.”
If you’ve recognized that you’re feeling angry or sad it might sound like:
“I’m really angry right now. And you know what? For the next few minutes I’m going to be angry.”
Eventually you learn to celebrate and savor the good moments and acknowledge and learn from the bad.
Allow yourself to feel what you feel, loosen your grip, and let it float away.