Archive for June 2015

What’s in your bucket?

children-with-bucketsWhat are the most important things in life? How do you spend your time? What are the main reasons why you spend your time in this way?

These questions are important to answer because “moving” doesn’t mean we’re moving in the right direction. Sometimes we need to reflect on how our life is developing around our priorities. It’s crucial to understand the direction you’re moving towards.

Everybody carries around a bucket metaphorically speaking. In that bucket are the larger contexts of life. I don’t have manifestos in there, I don’t have paragraphs in there, I have phrases. These phrases include family, work, health, God, relationships, values and dreams. These are very simple concepts that go in your bucket.

All of phrases influence one another. For example, how healthy you are affects the energy and time you have available to spend on the other three. Your self-view affects your mental health, how you interact with people and to what degree you “allow” yourself to live your purpose, values & dreams and so forth. Improvement in any one of these areas will consequently not only have an impact in that area, but the other areas as well.

When I sit in my office and do consultations with business clients, my objective is to give them phrases they can put in the bucket. I want to take complicated business deductions and boil them down into really simple concepts that my clients can drop into their bucket. I want them to understand how a certain tax implication will affect a important context of their life.

When these clients leave my office, I can see them carrying their bucket. That’s where the value is for me. I see the bucket as simplicity. If you were to move your bucket around, it shouldn’t be heavy. I doesn’t take a wheelbarrow to move. It doesn’t take a forklift. It’s simply a bucket that you can pick up and carry around all day long. Simplifying refocusing important contexts of life are how we can find true success.

What language are you speaking?

speakingHave you ever miscommunicated important details to someone? Have you ever left a conversation and you were puzzled by what occurred? It’s interesting to me how two individuals can carry on a conversation and yet be speaking completely different languages.

We had a new house cleaner come to the house recently. It was a Saturday and she brought her 10-year-old son along. Like most 10-year-olds, he planted himself in my recliner and played video games all day long. When she was finished cleaning the house and was ready to leave, she walked into the living room and begins speaking to her son in Spanish.

There was no doubt what she was telling him. It was very clear to anyone within earshot that she wanted her son to get up and go to the car. I thought it was humorous because no matter what the language we speak, they all sound the same. But then I started thinking about how different personality types speak to each other.

There are times when I speak very clearly and the listener understands the intent, they understand my words, they understand my direction. And then there’s times when they don’t hear anything that I said, they don’t hear the intent, the words, the emotions. It could be because at the beginning of the conversation, maybe I offended them. Or it’s because I’m too boisterous with my language and demeanor.

It made me stop and wonder how many times I didn’t hear what someone was saying because they’re speaking a different language. Or, maybe they weren’t speaking a different language; I just didn’t want to hear them. It can be difficult to accommodate someone else’s language style, but I encourage you to evaluate your active listening skills and practice listening to all types of “languages” this week.