If we wait for when, we never get to then

A lot of times, we have the tendency to live our lives by the When-Then Concept.

  • “When I lose weight, then I’m going to start jogging.”
  • “When I get married, then I’m going to save money.”
  • “When I pay off this car, then I’m going to start paying off my student loan.”
  • “When this debt’s gone, then I’m going to start saving for retirement.”

I can go through my life, and I can think of multiple when-thens.

I was talking with a buddy about the When-Then Concept, and he said, “Holy cow. This is exactly what I needed to hear.”

We can all find ourselves stalling instead of saying, “OK, now I’m going to do this.”

When I notice that I’m procrastinating because of the When-Then Concept, this recognition helps remove some of the barriers. It gets me down to what I’m able to give attention to, and it gives me direction.

The When-Then Concept applies in my personal life, my financial life, my relationship with my children, and more.

Being aware of its pitfalls helps me stop from saying, “When the kids get to summer vacation, then…” or “When the kids get back in school, then…”

I live my life waiting for the when, and the then never comes. It never arrives.

My wife and I had to overcome it when we decided to have children. We had been saying, “When we have enough money, we’re going to have kids.”

We realized we were never going to have as much money as we thought we needed.

It’s worked out just fine. Somehow our kids have survived. They eat, and they live indoors.

In what areas of your life are you stalled by the When-Then Concept? Once you realize where it’s holding you back, it’s much easier to move forward.

Birds of a feather flock together

Turkeys are my teachers. I recently changed the type of turkeys I raise, and the new breed of black, broad-breasted turkeys have taught me a lesson about relationships.

The breed I used to raise—standard bronze —would always run from me when I went into the pen. They would squawk like I was trying to get them or like I was a mean-spirited critter there to do them harm.

When I first got my new flock of 20 black, broad-breasted turkeys, I kept them indoors, and they squawked like all the other turkeys I’ve had.

They were growing like crazy, and I moved them to a pen outside. Suddenly, their personality totally changed.

I’ve never seen anything like it with a group of animals.

The black, broad-breasted turkeys come running as I’m leaning over to fill their water and their feeder or doing maintenance on equipment.

They walk up and look me in the eye. They stand on my foot looking at me.

They look down at what I’m doing, and they look back up like they’re saying, “What ya doing?” “You’re doing that wrong.” “Shouldn’t you be doing it another way?” “Does anybody know you’re doing it this way?”

That’s the way it seems to me. The entire flock does it.

I can’t get things fixed in the pen. When one of my automatic waterers broke, I had to take it out of the pen to fix it because they wouldn’t leave me alone. As I’m pouring water in, they’re sticking their heads in.

This behavior got me thinking.

I’m a very relational person, but I’m not very social. I will be social with you because I value our relationship. I force myself to be outgoing. “Hey, how are you?” “How’s your day been?” How are the kids?”

My instinct is to notice you but to act like I don’t see you in Sam’s. I’ll duck down an aisle because I just don’t want to talk. It’s nothing personal; I just don’t want to talk.

I’m only social because I know that it enhances my relationships.

The turkeys I had before, the ones that ran from me, I didn’t see as pets. I didn’t see them as friends.

With the new ones, I’ve developed a fondness.

When I talk to you, it enriches and enhances me. It enriches and enhances you. It enriches and enhances our relationship.

Don’t let all the squawking disrupt your peace of mind

In raising chickens, I house my flock in “chicken tractors” or mobile chicken coups.

Each chicken tractor of 75 birds has three 5-foot feeders, and the chickens can feed on both sides of each feeder. That’s 30 feet of feeders—more than enough for all of them to eat at their leisure.

But they sit at one feeder, and they fight with each other. Then one chicken will squawk because it got pushed out of the way. As soon as that chicken squawks, a chicken from the other side of the feeder that was eating by itself, unmolested, will perk up.

What does this chicken do? It immediately runs over to where it heard the noise and fights its way in, which provokes more fighting and squawking.

I’m amazed that these birds will fight at the same feeder when there’s plenty of food at the other feeders.

It makes me think of how many times I make life more difficult than it needs to be. I hear white noise, and I go running over there. Somebody has a new device, a new calendar, a new five steps to productivity, or three steps to the greatest relationship ever.

Rather than pay attention to what’s important, I’m easily distracted.

How many times do I miss the boat because I’m following somebody else who claims to have the latest and greatest thing that goes “bang”?

That’s all that many things are—attention-getters. It doesn’t benefit me. I would be better off to enjoy peace and quiet.

But, no… I have an idea, and I pick a fight on Facebook so that we can never talk again.

What did the chicken do when it crossed the farm?

I enjoy raising chickens, and they teach me life lessons.

My 300 chickens are Cornish Rocks. They’re not what you think of as Cornish chickens—the cute little Cornish Game Hens.

What I grow, Cornish Rock Chickens, are today’s typical commercial breed. They’ve been bred to grow amazingly fast.

They convert feed better than any other chicken on the market. Most chickens you eat in the store are about six or seven weeks old—that’s how fast these chickens grow.

Cornish Rocks love to eat. It’s amazing how much they love to eat.

My latest life lesson came about through using “chicken tractors.” A chicken tractor is a mobile chicken coup that holds 75 birds and allows me to move my flock from one spot to another spot on my land.

The chickens can eat all the grass and weeds they want, which amounts to about 15 percent of their diet. Chicken manure is 40 percent nitrogen. What does everybody want to put on their yard? Nitrogen.

The chickens are getting grass, which is what they want, and I’m getting fertilizer, which is what I want. What’s more, they’re doing weed control because the grass comes back faster than the weeds.

This approach creates a symbiosis based on the balance of nature. I’m leveraging what the chickens want to do for my benefit. I want beautiful dark green grass, and I’m not using commercial fertilizers to get it.

This is a healthier approach than traditional agricultural practices. The first thing that most farmers do is cut down all the trees and flatten out all the mountains because they don’t like that topography.

I show up and ask, “How can I have the chickens be happy and still give me what I want?”

Nature loves the balance of the chickens eating green stuff and me getting fertilizer.

In my life, how many times do I fight natural balance? I stretch against it, and I attempt the very thing that I abhor—cutting down all the trees and flattening out all the mountains.

What if I looked for balance at every turn? If I looked for balance in my relationship with my wife, my children, my employees, my friends, my church, and my food?

My love of strawberry cake is a case in point. A piece of strawberry cake every now and then is OK and even in balance. Eating a strawberry cake in its entirety is a bad idea. I’ve proven that to be true on several occasions.

Storms and opportunities

A few weekends ago, I went on a motorcycle trip with three buddies. We had originally planned to go to southern Arkansas, work our way up to the north, and then head back home. The weather report forecasted a ton of rain, and it ended up flooding in Arkansas. My buddies and I decided to go somewhere without rain.

We jumped on our bikes and headed south to Waco, Texas. On our way there, we did a big loop around the western side of the Metroplex down to Waco. We planned on doing a big loop to the east on our way back, plus a loop back toward Gainesville.

On Saturday, we woke up in Waco and checked the weather. We had been dodging storms and watching the weather most of our trip. We knew we had to be home by Sunday, so we tried our best to plan a route to get us there around the storms. We started north, but we couldn’t take I-35 all the way north because of storms. We were on highway 34 and 78 for parts of the trip.

Whenever we saw a storm, either by the clouds or by our phones, we’d turn right and head that way for a while. Then, we’d turn left and head back north. If you looked at our route on a map, you would see a huge line of zigzags and backtracking. We just wanted to be sure we were not hit by the storms. We finally stopped in Ardmore for the night on Saturday.

We watched the weather and found out Myrtle Springs, Texas, got hit by an F5 tornado and four people had died. We had passed through Myrtle Springs an hour before the tornado hit. If we had made different decisions, we could have potentially been in that tornado’s path in a place we weren’t familiar with. We didn’t know where to find shelter, what roads were dead ends, or anything else necessary to keep us safe.

During breakfast that morning, we talked about the opportunities you have in life. How many times in life are you able to sit still? To turn left? To turn right? To still go forward but decrease your speed? There’s a reason for everything, like our directions and our speed. Sometimes I am so busy and distracted by the noise that I don’t listen to what the things around me are telling me. Are you?

Do you listen to what’s going on around you?

If there is one date that I’ll never forget, it’s April 19, 2017. It was right after our busy season, and Holly and I were headed home after dinner. Our neighbor, Ed, called about 5:30 telling me not to panic about all the Luther police and Oklahoma County sheriff cars. Ed’s neighbor had his daughter and granddaughter visiting him, and the 4-year-old granddaughter had gone missing.

I was concerned because there are wild dogs, coyotes, bobcats, and cougars that roam around my property. Since we were still on the road home, Ed was checking my barns and around my property to make sure she wasn’t playing hide and seek. It had recently rained, so there weren’t any tracks in the mud. The police were using search dogs, and they requested that we not walk across the properties because if our scent crossed hers, the dogs might get off track.

Once we got home and were allowed back onto our property, three drones went up to provide an arial view. We decided to check a few more places and to stay in communication, just in case we found her. I went to do some chores and walked towards my paddock. One of my draft horses, Penny, was staring straight north and not moving. I leaned against the fence and watched Penny, then I changed positions so that I could see everything that she was seeing.

I kept telling myself, “Listen to what she’s telling you.” She turned to the northeast, and her body posture completely changed. I jumped the fence and started sprinting to the other side of the paddock to get a better look, because I knew what she was trying to tell me at that point. The cattle were running away from one of the north ponds, so I knew something wasn’t right. I saw a head pop out of the pond and realized it was the missing granddaughter. I called the neighbor to ask what the girl was wearing (a baby blue coat) and her name (Charlie).

I jumped the paddock fence and ran towards the child, calling her name. I ran a quarter mile from the house, and when I picked her up, she just started sobbing. The adrenaline rush dropped, and I felt like I was about to pass out, even through the excitement of finding her. We got her back to her mother and grandfather, and as you can imagine, it was a happy reunion.

Charlie wrote me a thank you card that said, “Thank you for finding me. You’re a good neighbor.” She drew pictures of the horses, me carrying her, and us walking home. Holly told me that they had come over with the card and banana nut bread. Ed said that Penny tried to tell him the same thing, but he just didn’t hear it.

Animals have this amazing ability to let us know what’s going on, even without speaking. Their posture, actions, and demeanor can show how they feel about their environment and if something isn’t right. You don’t have to have words to listen to the world around you. Keep listening, and listen harder.

The best way to hold rental real estate

If you’re investing in real estate (especially in rental real estate), you’re probably weighing your options and considering the safest way for you to hold that real estate.

In my opinion, an LLC is typically the best option in that situation, and not a corporation.

A limited liability company, or LLC, is a company structure where the members of the company cannot be held personally liable for the company’s debts or liabilities.

An LLC is more flexible than a corporation because the LLC can be managed by a single individual or a third party. The business will be able to file taxes as though it were a partnership or sole-proprietorship, while having legal protection. If an LLC is sued, the plaintiffs are suing the company, not the owners or investors.

The tax and civil laws are favorable for real estate LLCs, as well. I believe that rental real estate investments should never belong in a corporation.

Most of corporate real estate focuses on commercial properties instead of residential because they would need to “flip” the residential property within a year or face double taxation at the corporate level. If you’re investing in residential real estate, an LLC will give you more options than a corporation would.

Let’s pretend you have ten rental properties. You could have a series of eleven LLCs that covers you, as the owner, and the ten properties. The LLC does nothing but hold the properties for you. The eleventh LLC manages the ten others.

The ten properties’ LLC has a relationship with the one LLC, while the one LLC manages the other ten. That one LLC would be the main point of contact, responsible for the bank account, repairs, management, or anything else that is needed.

If you have any questions about LLCs, or any other business entities, please contact my office.

We would be happy to sit down with you to talk about the pros and cons of each of the entities that you can choose from.

Don’t get discouraged by driving in the ditch

Back in the day, I drove a 1974 powder blue Pinto station wagon. Once, a friend and I were planning on fishing in a hole that was way back in the woods. The road that I used to get there had ditches on both sides of it. When I was driving, my car started veering off into one ditch.

I knew if I stepped on the brake, I would get stuck in the ditch. I kept on the gas and eventually got back up on the road. Then, I started veering off into the other ditch. I spent about a third of the time from the main highway to the fishing hole in the ditches on both sides of the road.

We made it to the fishing hole in the end, even if that meant I took my Pinto four-wheeling!

There are usually ditches on both sides of the road, both literally and figuratively. In life, we have the tendency to think that going off into the ditch is going to be the worst thing that could ever happen to us.

But driving in the ditch doesn’t always mean that your direction is wrong. It just means there is another step to get back on the road. For me, the ditch eventually let me get back on the road.

When you’re in the ditch, it’s sometimes scary because it’s not the safety you’re used to from the road. It may take you a little longer to reach your destination. You’re still going in the direction you want to go, even if it’s not the way that you expected.

Until you decide that you don’t want to be on that specific road, it’s okay to be in the ditch. Just let everything smooth out until you can see the road again. You’ll get where you need to be eventually.

So what? Now what?

The head coach of the Indianapolis Colts, Chuck Pagano, has a saying for everything. He may not have coined this saying, but he sure says it a lot: “So what? Now what?”

How I view this quote, in the terms of football, is like this. When something bad happens on the football field and the players come off the field saying things like, “Coach, they held me! They blocked me in the back!” the response is, “So what? Now what?”

There are all kinds of events and circumstances that are out of our control. What we can control, though, is the way we react tho those situations. All you can do is move on from the event and learn from it. So what? Now what?

The more I learn about Chuck Pagano, the more I appreciate this quote. He’s a really neat guy that had leukemia. He overcame cancer and used a bunch of sayings to get through the treatments. He’s really inspirational.

When something challenging happens, you can look back on it and think, it cannot be that bad. It just can’t be because it’s already over. It happened. What comes next?

When I played football, we were very small. Our offensive line was tiny. We shouldn’t have been very successful, not based on the way things looked. But we had a play that we ran so often, we did it better than anybody else. We would run a sweep, running outside toward the sidelines, about 40-50% of the time, and that’s how we got around our bad-looking circumstances.

To me, that’s a great exercise in the “So what? Now what?” mentality Pagano has.

You can use this saying in every aspect of your life:

  • You get a big client? So what? Now what?
  • You scored a touchdown? So what? Now what?
  • You lost a sale? So what? Now what?
  • You get a promotion? So what? Now what?

For me, I’m a driver. When I do something well, I want to do it even better. When I succeed, I want to succeed some more.

This keeps driving me forward. It keeps me leaning into everything so that I can be better, do more, and be more impactful. It also keeps my head level so I don’t get too caught up in my problems. When things go sour, it’s okay. It’s not that bad. It’s just one event in the journey.

I once heard Steve Farrar unpack Psalms 23 for two hours. He really focused on the word “through,” when David talks about going through the valley of the shadow of death. It isn’t about the destination, it’s a journey.

This journey has a beginning, a middle, and an end. In the beginning, it’s not a big deal because you’re just starting. The valley isn’t unbearable. In the middle, it starts to get tougher. The valley begins to seem unbearable. In the end, though, the journey wasn’t actually that bad, because you’re looking back at the end of it.

So what? Now what? Tomorrow, you can ask the same questions in whatever situation comes up then. Go through the journey of the day.

Get 2017’s taxes off to a good start

Now that April 15th has come and gone: congratulations! The 2016 tax season is over. Let’s use this time to start thinking about next year’s taxes.

Everything from this past year is fresh in your mind: your W-2, your mortgage payments, and your contributions to organizations. You know if you had a big refund, if your rental properties did well or not, and how your investments fared. You can use all of that as a launching pad for your 2017 plan!

You’re already a third of the way through the year, so you’ve got some material to start working with when you think about your plan for 2017 taxes. You can track your spending habits, see if everything goes as expected, and decide what changes you may want to make.

That way, you’ve got a launching pad for 2017 taxes with these four months under your belt. With your tax return, you can figure out a multitude of things:

  • what happened/didn’t happen in the previous year that you expected
  • what you like (and don’t like) about your spending habits
  • how much do you want to owe next tax season/do you want a big refund?
  • how can you change your spending habits, if necessary

You’ll want to reevaluate again in July. It should be easy math by then, because the first six months of the year will be done. You’ll be able to transition the first half of the year to the second half, and it should be the same. You can start planning for the 2017 tax season from this plan: estimating your tax liability, your refund, and your estimated tax payment(s).

If 2016 was a problem year, use 2017 to fix it so there aren’t any issues this upcoming tax season. This 2017 plan should allow you to see what your variances, good or bad, are going to be compared to your 2016 plan.

Want to talk with a real-life person to help you figure out your plan for 2017 taxes? Give our office a call. We’d be happy to help.